This is a saying my husband and I have. We usually apply it to the relationships we see crumbling (or never getting off to a good start ) around us. We analyze and pick apart the people in these relationships and generally come to the conclusion that one or both of them had expectations that were disappointed. Often times those expectations were ridiculous and unrealistic.
Over the years I've come to apply the same saying to a variety of situations in life...work, parenting and now natural hair. Whenever I hear a woman say she's unhappy with her natural hair or disappointed by her journey I always ask myself the following questions:
1. What did she expect it to be?
2. Did she think she could make her natural hair do what her relaxed hair did?
3. Is her "hair crush" more than a crush...and actually a goal?
When you find yourself disappointed in life, whether it's something important like love, or less important like your hair, check your expectations first. Were they reasonable? Was there any way for them to be realized? Once you've answered these questions honestly, the road ahead is usually pretty clear.
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